why not?.. idk who you are or what happened between us but I am not the same person as I was when I last lived here and that’s only for the better. I am open to reconnecting whoever you are!

oracleofink:

daeranilen:

real-pcys:

real-pcys:

hot take: moms need to learn how to listen to and comfort their daughters without making everything about their own traumas

a classic example

daughter: hey this thing you do bothers me very much and i wish you wouldn’t do it

mom: well my parents abused me and im not even as bad as they were and i had to sit through it so you gotta sit through whatever i do to you too

a common variant

mom: well i’m having a really hard time right now and you know that i’m doing my best and that i didn’t mean to hurt you ergo you are in fact the asshole for asking me to consider your feelings and change my behavior during this hard hard time i’m having

My childhood.

Growing up with a mother with bpd! This exact thing happened to me today with my mother but I had to apologize for being dramatic for also being mentally ill but being aware of it and working on my symptoms and trying to communicate healthily!!!!